And, for many small business owners (my past self included) that number is far greater. The lines between business and life have become so blurred that work can encompass most of our time.
It’s our first thought when we wake, and extends all the way to the late-night problem-solving sessions we entertain before sleep.
Many of us have come to accept the “cult of overworking”. We have succumbed to the pressure of being “always-on” and wear our “busyness” as a badge of honor.
We glorify work as if productivity and wealth are the only measures of success.
Yet, stories from the finish line, say otherwise. One common regret from the dying in their last days is, “I wish I hadn’t worked so much”, and would have spent more time on meaningful activities and relationships.
Contrary to standard belief, more is not...
Fall has the energy of “action” for me. My kiddo is back in school, which generally means I have more time to devote to work, projects, etc. I like to vacation in the summer, so by the time fall rolls around, I can feel a certain pressure or “urgency” around my work, especially as I am gearing up for the final quarter.
It's an easy time to slip back into bad habits. For me, that looks like taking on too much or not planning my wellness and connection activities first. And, of course, that leads to me feeling stressed.
When I am working in a state of “fight or flight”, my decision-making is poor, I can’t communicate effectively, and I’m generally “re-acting” to the world around me, instead of “responding”. Not good…
However, if I stay intentional about my self-care and keep my practices super simple, I am able to handle the stress of the “busy” times. To show up as my...
Business owners have a serious obsession with productivity.
And, with good reason. Generally, more productivity translates to a better bottom line.
I have several tricks up my sleeve for creating more efficiency and productivity throughout my workday. These strategies have allowed me to accomplish more without increasing my to-do list.
But, I return again and again to my #1 productivity booster, which I refer to as the 3R’s:
Rest. Relax. Refuel.
Before I created YBBL, I was in desperate need of a change. I was deep into the cycle of “feeling like I always needed to be working”. Somehow I feared that my business would “fall apart” if I stepped away.
I was working from the moment I woke up until I finally “crashed” at night. And, it wasn't even effective. Working all the time was making me less productive, less profitable, and generally miserable.
We all have times in our businesses that need more effort....
2020 has been….
Well, let’s say that I am thankful that our little family embraced what we could and made the best of it.
And, it wasn’t all bad.
In fact, 2020 forced me to re-evaluate my need for “busyness”. I took the time to revisit my self-care practices and path for healing. If not for staying home, I may have skipped valuable lessons for which I am feeling grateful.
We started the year as an RV family, and in March, made the huge pivot by putting down roots in SW Florida. Beach time allllll the time!
And then, COVID.
I miss our travel lifestyle, but I am thankful that we were able to quarantine in the new house. We kept busy with “projects”: painting, putting together furniture, etc...We got to know our sweet little town by walking in the parks and trails. Met our new neighbors and had a few great socially-distanced driveway meet-ups.
Plus, time and stability allowed YBBL to blossom....
We had arrived at the “pinnacle” of our success.
Sadly, what should have been a joyful moment, seemed rather soul-less.
I looked down at my miles-long “to do” list sighed and thought to myself:
”This is it? This is what I have been (over) working for?”
Looking back, I can see that I had lost my joy.
As our business grew, I let go of all the little experiences that buoy a meaningful existence.
Instead, taking time for joy became an elusive cat and mouse game of “if” or “when”.
There was always “something” that became the new priority.
I was so focused on the business and I failed to recognize that I COULD and SHOULD lean into creating the space for joy.
Such a happy little word, yet, there is an elusive quality in describing joy.
The definition, “a feeling of great...
In particular, I was proud of my fitness regimen. I would log several miles a week on my daily walks. But as things got busier, taking time away to walk felt “self-indulgent”. I tried to schedule walks on the weekends, but because I already had a backlog of “to-do” items, it rarely manifested.
At first, I was willing to forgo self-care because my business seemed “high priority”.
In fact, I actually saw my “sacrifices” as a badge of honor. I was a dedicated business owner, giving my all to see the business succeed. But, the sacrifices kept coming until my entire regime of self-care practices disappeared.
My business was like a screaming child, demanding all my attention...
My schedule climbed from an eight-hour workday to ten, twelve, even fourteen hours. If I wasn’t sleeping, I was working the business, talking about the business,...